I’m seriously considering going and living in a cave for the entire month of December next year. Honestly, I’m going mad! Actually, I think everyone is.
When I was at school every single report card or parent/teacher interview I ever had involved these words “must try harder”, “does not apply herself” or “does not give enough attention to her work”. It was pretty crushing. I dumped those labels of inadequacy long ago but recently they’ve come back – and it’s because of Christmas. Isn’t that awful? This day that is supposed to mark the beginning of the only thing in the whole of history that proves beyond any doubt that we ARE all good enough in the eyes of the only one who matters – makes us feel like we are not enough.
Everyone I see asks if I’m ready for Christmas. I don’t even know what ready means any more!?! There’s always one more donation you could make, one more gift you could buy, one more set of perfectly paired napkins and table setting you can plan. I’VE HAD ENOUGH!
And while I’m ranting – can we all stop telling people they shouldn’t be alone at Christmas? I know quite a few people who have created elaborate lies about where they are going and what they are doing when their only desire is to spend the day at home, alone, slobbing about in their pajamas and watching rubbishy TV.
Honestly, I’m not a curmudgeon, I love this time of year and I am loving this period of my life when my kids are still around, Santa still visits us, we give and receive gifts blah blah blah BUT we should always take care not to force people into our idea of what Christmas “should” be. We don’t all want to be surrounded by people, we don’t all want our home to look like an ornament factory exploded nearby. It seems to me that individuality is acceptable only at certain times and this is one time when it is most definitely not ok to be just you.
Perhaps it’s the era we live in – surrounded by a constant stream of images from Facebook, Pinterest, TV and magazines that reality could never live up to. I suppose capitalism won’t work if we are all satisfied with what we have. If we don’t realize that having a mustard colored refrigerator or mismatched tableware is simply unacceptable in time for Christmas, we can fix it at the Boxing Day blow out sales just in time for all the New Year entertaining we should do in order to prove to our peers that we are worthy of the breath of life.
This is the time of year when we can invite everyone to celebrate the fact that we are made perfect by in Christ – and we DO NOT need to try harder.