Overthinking's Evil Twin
My husband has a habit. If he doesn't hear what I say he removes his glasses, looks at me and says "what?" I don't know how removing his glasses helps him hear better but he assures me that it does. Although (apparently) brilliantly clever at physics, multi-tasking is not his thing. Obviously, hearing and seeing at the same time is too much. I bought him a monocle in the hope that he could listen with one ear and look with one eye but to no avail. It turns out he felt he needed two monocles - we thought perhaps we could join them with some wire so they were easy to keep together. Then we realised we were talking about a pair of glasses now - and we have some of those already...
I suspect the problem is me. If I'm not talking, singing or creating some sort of noise I can't be sure I'm not dead - so I keep up the racket in an unconscious desire to reassure myself of my existence. But to him of course - it's all just background noise.
Which starts me thinking about all the background noise in my life. I have just finished reading an excellent book called Crazybusy. It was a most interesting read and spoke to the tendency for us to fill our lives to breaking point. And pointed out the reasons for that. One is pride ( I don't exist/am not important unless I'm rushed off my feet) and the conviction that "no one else will do it", the need for pats on the back and our discomfort sitting quietly alone. A great friend of mind once said "I get all my best thinking done in the loo". And why? Because there are no distractions. That's why 'shower thoughts' are a thing!
As my son was asked when wearing his favorite shirt - "can you turn down the volume a bit please?". I think the only way to go is to schedule "nothing" and actually write that on my calendar. If there's a blank on my calendar I am bound to fill it - so it seems this is the way to go.
I really do have to go now .. I have a very busy weekend!